By Linda Cole
- Recruit and accept help and emotional support through family and friends. Do not try to weather the crisis alone.
- Confide in your primary physician.
- Be positive. Be proactive. Your attitude will contribute greatly to the outcome. Educate yourself and be involved as much as possible.
- Recognize that “This too shall pass.” You will have a “normal” life again, although it may never be as it was.
- Find your mental “get-away” for particularly traumatic moments. Example: Envision yourself floating on calm water. Block out all distractions and center yourself.
- Focus on others. Do not internalize. Who else needs your help during this crisis? How can you help those around you?
- Stay busy. This is a bad time to be idle. Don’t sit home alone.
- Exercise regularly. Walk, run, bicycle thirty minutes every other day. The endorphins released will help you mentally and emotionally. Your sleep will improve. Your body will be stronger and you will feel more in control.
- Sleep. Get a good night’s sleep. Your body and brain need the recuperation times. If you are exhausted, you will be less effective at a critical time.
- Eat well. Eat well-balanced meals, lots of fruits and vegetables, good proteins and complex carbohydrates. Your body and mind are in a state of hyper-stress. They need useful nutrients, not chemicals, processes and additives that sap your strength.
Finally, you will have moments that you can’t avoid. Find a place; mine was in the closet, where you can really cry. Let it come. But set a limit, perhaps 4-5 minutes. Afterward move on. Do not dwell.